Most people expect the hardest part of Jewish conversion to be getting started. The early months are full of learning, clarity, and momentum. Everything is new, and there’s a sense of forward motion that makes the work feel exciting and purposeful.
The end of the process has a shape too – meetings, milestones, preparations, and a clear sense of direction. There’s something to work toward.
What no one really prepares you for is the middle.
In this short video, I talk about why that middle stage isn’t a failure or a mistake – it’s where Jewish life stops being theoretical and starts becoming yours. And why learning to endure the ordinary Tuesdays is one of the most important skills you’ll need, long after the conversion process is over.
If you’re feeling stuck in that in-between space, you don’t have to navigate it alone. Inside Bayit Builders, we focus on building sustainable structure, perspective, and support for exactly this stage. Doors open to new members January 11–15, 2026. You can learn more or join the waitlist here.
Transcript below.
Transcript:
What no one tells you about the middle of the Jewish conversion process.
The beginning is usually clear. You’re learning a lot. Everything feels new. There’s energy and adrenaline and momentum.
And the end has a shape: meetings, preparations, milestones, a beit din, a sense of direction again. But the middle is kind of quiet. It’s where growth slows down.
Feedback gets less frequent.
And it can feel like nothing is happening, even though a lot is.
This is usually where you’re building consistency.
Showing up to the same mitzvot, practicing the same rhythms, celebrating the Jewish year.
Living Jewish life without constant reassurance.
And that can feel anticlimactic.
Normal. Even boring!
Which can be discouraging, ‘ cause maybe you feel like you’ve stalled.
You feel like maybe you’re not as “in love” with it anymore, and does that mean you’re not cut out for this? Are you making the wrong choice?
You can start to panic. But that middle isn’t a mistake.
It’s the part where your Jewish life stops being theoretical and becomes lived in.
It’s where your Jewish life becomes yours.
This is where endurance matters more than excitement.
And that endurance is what you’re going to need after the conversion is over, when all of a sudden you’re just living a Jewish life day in and day out the rest of your life.
The highs of the beginning of the process and the end of the process are the parts that are weird.
You can’t rely on those because that’s not what life is. Life is made up of Tuesdays.
So if you’re drowning in Tuesdays, you need structure, perspective, and support.
And that’s what my membership Bayit Builders was made to do. Doors are opening January 11th through the 15th, 2026. You can learn more or sign up for the wait list at Building a Jewish Life.com/membership.
