Most Jewish converts don’t get “outed” by a rude question. They get outed by ordinary conversation. If you’ve ever found yourself frozen mid–small talk, suddenly aware that the next question will push you into sharing something private you didn’t plan to explain, you already know how this happens. Jewish geography – the well-meaning, mildly competitive […]
The Social Game Every Jewish Convert Eventually Loses Read Post »
You don’t have to wait until Tu BiShvat – the birthday of the trees – to begin growing your Jewish practice. Growth starts long before the holiday arrives, quietly and steadily, beneath the surface. In this video, I talk about why starting small now matters: choosing one practice, one learning goal, and one community step
What to Begin Now Before Tu BiShvat Read Post »
The Jewish month of Shvat is often described as the month of roots – a time when growth begins underground, long before anything is visible. If you’re at the beginning of your Jewish journey and things feel slow or quiet, that doesn’t mean nothing is happening. This is the season for laying foundations and letting
How the Month of Shvat Supports New Jewish Beginnings Read Post »
Jewish conversion can be hard in ways that are normal and meaningful. Learning new rhythms, changing habits, and showing up consistently often feels uncomfortable, but still purposeful. But not all difficulty is the same. Some experiences don’t build you – they wear you down. Confusion without explanation, constant anxiety, or feeling smaller over time aren’t
If Conversion Feels Like It’s Hurting Read Post »
Many people assume the hardest part of building a Jewish life is getting started – finding a rabbi, beginning classes, deciding whether to convert. Those moments can be intense, but for a lot of people, the real challenge comes later. It’s the moment when the structure falls away. When classes slow down. When the checklist
Life After the Jewish To-Do List Read Post »
If building a Jewish life feels exhausting, it’s often not because you lack motivation. It’s because you’re carrying too many decisions. Many people assume that deepening Jewish life requires more effort and more time. In reality, what drains most people is constantly having to decide what matters right now, what can wait, and whether they’re
You Need Fewer Decisions, More Consistency Read Post »
Most people don’t get stuck in the Jewish conversion process because information is unavailable. They get stuck because the information they find is scattered, contradictory, and hard to apply to real life. Free advice often comes without context, accountability, or follow-through. Knowing what exists isn’t the same as knowing what matters now, how to pace
There’s Too Much Advice, Not Enough Clarity Read Post »
If you’re questioning whether you belong in a space like Bayit Builders, there’s a good chance you’re measuring yourself against an imagined “type” of Jew and coming up short. Many people do this, often without realizing it. Judaism doesn’t work that way. What matters isn’t matching someone else’s pace, lifestyle, or expression. What matters is
Stop Measuring Yourself Against Imaginary Jews Read Post »
Jewish conversion often feels vague in ways that can be deeply unsettling. Many people find themselves wondering whether their confusion is normal, or a sign that something is wrong – and too often, they turn that uncertainty inward. Part of the challenge is that Judaism isn’t a checklist religion. It’s relational, communal, and lived over
Why Jewish Conversion Feels So Vague Read Post »
A lot of people assume they should wait until they “know enough” before joining a Jewish community or support space. That once they’ve read more, learned more, or felt more confident, then they’ll be ready for support. But in practice, waiting often means doing the hardest parts alone. The earliest stages of building a Jewish
You’re Allowed to Start Where You Are Read Post »