Ilan passed a week ago tonight, and this has been the hardest week of my life. In addition to the obvious, there have been other serious issues in my life this week, all conspiring to give me panic attacks. Thankfully, and much to my surprise, I have handled the anxiety, anger, hurt, frustration, pain, etc, in […]
Lessons from the Gentle Giant Read Post »
Believe me, I have plenty to say rattling around in my head. It’ll come soon. After all, I have tax law classes for the next three days… But in the meantime, I wanted to share something that makes me happy: the new Maccabeats video is out! I LOVE the throw-back to the Candlelight video! Ilan
Things That Make Me Happy: The Maccabeats Read Post »
Shavua tov. I hope you all had a peaceful Shabbos full of wonderful discussions about Ilan. I’ve heard from a lot of you, and I can’t tell you how much that means to me. I hope you’re all coping as best as possible. The funeral is going to be held in NJ (I have no
Another friend of Ilan has written about his feelings of loss for Ilan here. Having heard so many stories over Shabbos about this New Zealander rabbinical student, I thought it might be healthy for me to follow his example. However, he wrote about the wonderful qualities of Ilan. For me, I think I need to
Baruch Dayan HaEmet: Ilan Tokayer Read Post »
There is no post today. There may not be posts for a few days. Baruch dayan haemet. How difficult that is to say right now.
Baruch dayan haemet Read Post »
Mazel tov! You must be getting close to your conversion if you’re thinking about how to celebrate it! My experience so far is that orthodox converts don’t celebrate nearly as much as liberal converts. Make your interpretations as you will. Nearly everyone has (or tries to have) a special meal with some friends and family.
How to Celebrate Your Conversion Read Post »
Since I “went kosher” in June 2010, the most annoying thing remains drinks. I am apparently incapable of remembering that drinks can and will be dairy. I don’t drink milk and I rarely eat meat products, so my kitchen is almost entirely dairy. I rarely have to think about dairy v. meat except for what
Those Tricky Dairy Drinks… Read Post »
You may have previously read When Is It OK to Say “I’m Jewish,” Even If You Really Aren’t. But what about the other side? When MUST you disclose your in-flux status, even if you really don’t want to? I make no promises that this list is exhaustive, but I will update it if other important
When You NEED to Reveal Your Conversion Candidate Status Read Post »
NOTE: The Kvetching Editor wrote a response to this post here. I just want to point out that her situation is not what I’m describing. I’m talking about a single who enters the orthodox conversion process and then begins dating people who are already orthodox. However, for the record, I think dating is probably a bad idea
UPDATED: Why You Shouldn’t Date During Conversion Read Post »
I’ve been a bit of a negative Nancy lately, so here is some good conversion news for you: North American Rabbis Protest Conversion Policy. Sure, the rabbis have rallied to protect all orthodox converts’ rights to make aliyah, but I’m more skeptical that such a rabbinic “uprising” would happen as a way to pressure the
Shabbat Shalom! The Good News Edition :) Read Post »