You’ve already heard that conversion is like falling in love. But you may not know that getting an orthodox conversion can sometimes be like an abusive relationship. In a cosmic sign that I can’t escape this topic this week, Frum Satire posted yesterday “Stop Screwing with the Converts Already!“ The world Jewish community and Jewish […]
The Monster that Orthodox Conversion Has Become Read Post »
Happy Half-Priced Candy Day! Now on to business… During conversion, you feel like you’re the one always being interviewed. And you are. But at some point, maybe even during your conversion, you’ll also get to interview someone: the rabbis and congregants of a new community. Hopefully you have a selection of communities! Even if not,
UPDATED: How to Interview a New Jewish Community Read Post »
I had a hard time deciding how to title this post. You can group mitzvos in any number of ways, but here I want to focus on 1) mitzvot that are primarily actions and 2) mitzvot that are primarily ethical (I also like calling them interpersonal). We each have a preference or one group that
Action-Based Mitzvot and Ethical Mitzvot Read Post »
In continuation of a previous post (Reason #84 You Know You’re Crazy: Orthodox Conversion is EXPENSIVE!), here is the second edition of a possibly-indefinite series of posts warning you how horribly expensive orthodox conversion is (not “can be,” IS). I had meeting #2 with the beit din, and here is a breakdown of all the
Conversion is Expensive, Part II Read Post »
Of course, the cop-out, generic answer is always, “It depends on the person.” It also depends on the “thing.” Let’s start by talking about a couple of things, and then we can continue the discussion in the comments if you want to talk about other Jewish items! Jewelry: Personally, I think anyone can wear Jewish
UPDATED: When Can a Conversion Candidate Begin Wearing Jewish “Things”? Read Post »
If you’re like most people, you haven’t really thought about this question. But yes, there are times when you will be asked if you are Jewish, and you should answer a simple “Yes,” even if you’ve had no conversion. (And even if you’ve taken no formal steps at all!) Here are the usual suspects: a)
When Is It OK to Say “I’m Jewish,” Even If You Really Aren’t? Read Post »
Do you ever get tunnel vision? Apparently I do. And I did when I wrote Convert Questions: Converts and Aliyah. Let’s summarize that post quickly: There are two times where your “Jewish” status matters when making aliyah to Israel: (1) for the Rabbinate (orthodox converts only, and even then it’s not a given) and (2)
Update on Converts and Aliyah: Reviewing the Law of Return Read Post »
I don’t actually have an official post for today. Just checking in on the personal level. Tomorrow I take a 24 hour trip to meet with the full beit din for the first time. As you can imagine, I’m a wee bit nervous. But more than that, I’m annoyed with myself. I realized that I’ve
Since I started blogging, I don’t get to keep up with reading other blogs as much as I would like. The overwhelming side-effect of blogging is that now I’ve discovered literally over 50 new blogs that I would love to read in addition to the 15ish I used to read religiously. School and work have
A Blogger Tries to Understand the Convert and Baal Teshuva Communities Read Post »
In the beginning, you decide to convert, and you are infatuated. You want to breathe, sleep, and eat Judaism every hour of the day. Any time spent apart physically hurts. The “eccentricities” of Judaism and Jews are cute, and you’re glad you noticed them. You begin learning everything you can get your hands on, just
Shabbat Shalom! Conversion Is Like Falling in Love Read Post »