I was born a bad Southerner. I didn’t like pinto beans or fried chicken or the 4 million other kinds of Southern foods. Now I’m a bad Jew. I don’t like cholent. From what I can tell, its purpose isn’t to be good. Its purpose is to be hot food on days we can’t prepare […]
Convert Confessions: I Don’t Like Cholent Read Post »
One common problem for the newly-observant conversion candidate is when another “orthodox Jew” doesn’t do what you’ve been taught “the law” is. Or worse, the first time you see an “orthodox Jew” drive to synagogue on Shabbat. We get so upset – “How come that person can still call himself orthodox? And why am I
Rule #42 of Orthodox Conversion: There ARE Double Standards. Get Used to It. Read Post »
Clearly, my dog doesn’t appreciate good chassidus. However, the book put up an impressive fight. Most of it is still bound together! Of course, I was only 1/4 of the way through the book. Reading a demolished book is absolutely frustrating!
Dog versus Rabbi Eliyahu Kitov: Who Will Survive?? Read Post »
A rabbi gave me a great piece of advice about how to respond when someone inevitably gets upset about something (which usually has nothing to do with you anyway) and says something like, “I was born Jewish, what do you know?” or “Who is a convert to tell me how to be Jewish?” The answer?
A Good Piece of Advice for All Converts Read Post »
This was my first year being Shabbat observant. My luck being what it is, this was also the year of the 3 Day Yontif. Rosh HaShanah and both Shabbats around Sukkot had 3 days of Shabbat and Yom Tov prohibitions. This means Thursday, Friday, and Saturday of each of those three weeks (within 1 month!) could
Jewish Holiday Fails: My First 3-Day Chag Experience Read Post »
Shabbat Shalom, all! This is the first week of short winter Shabbats here in the US, thanks to the fall time change. I really hate when Shabbat comes in early. Not because I run out of time to prepare (heaven knows I don’t have much to prepare!), but because I really feel the Shabbat spirit
ShabShal, Ya’ll! The Early Shabbat Edition Read Post »
You cannot hide that you are a convert. Whatever their reasons may be, I’ve known many converts/conversion candidates who adamantly felt that it was no one’s business if they are converts and that no one has the right to ask them if they are a convert. That’s all well and good, but they’re still going
Rule #1 of Conversions: You Can’t Hide that You’re a Convert Read Post »
Disclaimer: While I’ve only been “frum” since June, I’ve been primarily shomer negiah for several years. I haven’t always given it the attention it deserved, and being a bit of an idiot, I was shomer negiah except where it mattered: in my romantic relationships. That’s no longer the case, even though there is no risk
The Most-Thought Yet Least-Asked Question: Are You Shomer Negiah? Read Post »
Am I the only one who thinks “Jews-by-Choice” is an unnecessary term? What’s so wrong with being a “convert”? For some reason, I like it, despite not really having another religion to convert “from.” At a minimum, I don’t see what’s wrong with the term convert or why some people are so opposed to it,
Adventures in Semantics: Jew-by-Choice v. Convert Read Post »
Reason #12 You Know You’re Crazy: You’re unusually attached to a particular mitzvah. Mine is my mezuzot. I couldn’t tell you why, but I bought a mezuzah case (and non-kosher scroll) in 2005. I knew I couldn’t hang it, but it stayed with me for the next 5 years. This involved 5 moves. All but
Reason #12 You Know You’re Crazy: You’re Unusually Attached to a Particular Mitzvah Read Post »