Jewish conversion can be hard in ways that are normal and meaningful. Learning new rhythms, changing habits, and showing up consistently often feels uncomfortable, but still purposeful. But not all difficulty is the same. Some experiences don’t build you – they wear you down. Confusion without explanation, constant anxiety, or feeling smaller over time aren’t […]
If Conversion Feels Like It’s Hurting Read Post »
One of the most anxiety-provoking moments in the Jewish conversion process is being asked a deceptively simple question: “Why do you want to convert to Judaism?“ For many conversion candidates, this question feels like a test of worthiness. People rehearse answers for weeks or months, worry that their motivations aren’t “good enough,” or freeze entirely
How to Answer “Why Do You Want to Convert to Judaism?” (Without Spiraling) Read Post »
Feeling “behind” is one of the most common – and most painful – experiences people have during Jewish conversion. It often comes from the sense that everyone else knows the timeline, the rules, or the pace, and you somehow missed the memo. But Jewish conversion doesn’t move in straight lines. It starts and stops. It
Why Pauses Don’t Ruin a Jewish Conversion Read Post »
Contacting a rabbi is one of the most anxiety-provoking steps in the Jewish conversion process – and it’s also one of the most misunderstood. Many people delay conversion for months or even years because they believe they need to be “ready,” prove themselves, or have their entire story figured out before reaching out. This post
How to Contact a Rabbi for Conversion (Without Ruining Your Chances) Read Post »
If you want this to be the year you convert to Judaism, you’re in the right place, and you are absolutely not alone. So many people reach the moment where they say, “Okay… I’m ready. But what do I actually do now?” I remember that feeling vividly. I’m Kochava, a Jewish convert who has been
If You Want This to Be the Year You Convert to Judaism… Read Post »
When I finished converting to Judaism, everyone congratulated me — but no one warned me how disorienting it can feel afterward. You’ve spent months (or years) preparing, learning, proving, waiting for that magical moment at the mikvah… and then suddenly, it’s done. You’re Jewish. But instead of feeling confident, you’re exhausted, unsure, and maybe a
What No One Tells You After You Convert to Judaism, Part 1 Read Post »
Converting on a Budget: Why Jewish Life Feels So Expensive I converted to Judaism as a broke student – and I wish someone had warned me how quickly the costs add up. Classes, books, synagogue dues, kosher food, modest clothing… it can feel like every step toward Jewish life comes with a receipt attached. That’s
Converting to Judaism is already hard… don’t make it harder. I’ve spent over 15 years helping people navigate the Jewish conversion process—and I’ve made more than a few mistakes myself. Some of them were honest. Some were based in fear or confusion. And some… well, I didn’t know any better. But here’s the thing: there
What NOT to Do When Converting to Judaism Read Post »
The (Usually) Unspoken Message Many Conversion Candidates Hear Too many of us — whether through words or tone, directly or disguised as “good advice” — are told that conversion candidates aren’t worth a rabbi’s time. That we’re a waste of it. That our questions are a nuisance. That we should somehow earn our place. And
Jewish Conversion Candidates (and All Seekers) Are Not a Burden Read Post »
If you’re preparing for your first meeting with a rabbi about a Jewish conversion, you’re probably spiraling a little. I know I did. I was convinced I had to show up with all the right answers, a list of mitzvot I was already keeping, and zero mistakes. Spoiler: I was wrong. In this video, I’m
First Rabbi Meeting? What I Wish Someone Had Told Me Read Post »