If you’ve ever typed “How do I convert to Judaism?” into Google at 2 AM, you already know how vague the answers can feel. You’ll find opinions. You’ll find arguments. You’ll find people telling you to just “follow your heart.” What you won’t always find are clear, grounded, real-world steps. Conversion isn’t vibes. It isn’t […]
The First 3 Steps of Converting to Judaism (From Someone Who’s Been There) Read Post »
There’s a belief I see all the time in the conversion world, and it sounds like this: “If my conversion feels hurtful – and I’m still going – then I must really be serious.” As if the fact that you’re enduring confusion, dismissal, silence, or shame is proof of your sincerity. As if staying while
This Jewish Conversion Red Flag Gets Ignored Read Post »
If you’ve ever been told that getting an Orthodox conversion is the “safe” choice – the one nobody can question – I need you to sit with me for a minute. Here’s the thing: there is no universally accepted Jewish conversion. Not Reform. Not Conservative. Not even Orthodox. I know. That’s a lot. It doesn’t
Will Your Jewish Conversion Be Accepted By Everyone? Read Post »
If Jewish learning feels overwhelming, scattered, or like everything is urgent all at once, you’re not alone – and you’re not doing anything wrong. Most people don’t struggle with Jewish study because they lack motivation or discipline. They struggle because no one ever explained how Jewish learning is structured, how different areas fit together, or
How to Study Judaism Without Burning Yourself Out Read Post »
Jewish conversion can be hard in ways that are normal and meaningful. Learning new rhythms, changing habits, and showing up consistently often feels uncomfortable, but still purposeful. But not all difficulty is the same. Some experiences don’t build you – they wear you down. Confusion without explanation, constant anxiety, or feeling smaller over time aren’t
If Conversion Feels Like It’s Hurting Read Post »
One of the most anxiety-provoking moments in the Jewish conversion process is being asked a deceptively simple question: “Why do you want to convert to Judaism?“ For many conversion candidates, this question feels like a test of worthiness. People rehearse answers for weeks or months, worry that their motivations aren’t “good enough,” or freeze entirely
How to Answer “Why Do You Want to Convert to Judaism?” (Without Spiraling) Read Post »
Feeling “behind” is one of the most common – and most painful – experiences people have during Jewish conversion. It often comes from the sense that everyone else knows the timeline, the rules, or the pace, and you somehow missed the memo. But Jewish conversion doesn’t move in straight lines. It starts and stops. It
Why Pauses Don’t Ruin a Jewish Conversion Read Post »
Contacting a rabbi is one of the most anxiety-provoking steps in the Jewish conversion process – and it’s also one of the most misunderstood. Many people delay conversion for months or even years because they believe they need to be “ready,” prove themselves, or have their entire story figured out before reaching out. This post
How to Contact a Rabbi for Conversion (Without Ruining Your Chances) Read Post »
If you want this to be the year you convert to Judaism, you’re in the right place, and you are absolutely not alone. So many people reach the moment where they say, “Okay… I’m ready. But what do I actually do now?” I remember that feeling vividly. I’m Kochava, a Jewish convert who has been
If You Want This to Be the Year You Convert to Judaism… Read Post »
When I finished converting to Judaism, everyone congratulated me — but no one warned me how disorienting it can feel afterward. You’ve spent months (or years) preparing, learning, proving, waiting for that magical moment at the mikvah… and then suddenly, it’s done. You’re Jewish. But instead of feeling confident, you’re exhausted, unsure, and maybe a
What No One Tells You After You Convert to Judaism, Part 1 Read Post »