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When Gatekeeping Becomes Dangerous: Sexual Harassment in the Jewish Conversion Process

April 23, 2025

“Sexual harassment and abuse can and do happen during the Jewish conversion process – and we need to talk about it.” That’s the heart of this video. It’s not just a one-off scandal or a bad-apple rabbi. It’s a systemic vulnerability created by intense power imbalances, isolation, and a gatekeeping structure where one person’s word […]

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Sexual Harassment in the Jewish Conversion Process: What You Need to Know

April 23, 2025

This wasn’t easy to make. I’ve been part of the Jewish community for years now, but there are some things I still carry quietly. One of them is how vulnerable conversion candidates can be – and how rarely we talk about it. Sexual harassment and abuse do happen during the Jewish conversion process. Sometimes it’s

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How Long Does It Really Take to Convert to Judaism?

April 6, 2025

If you’re just starting your journey, or feeling stuck in the middle of it, you’ve probably wondered: how long is this going to take? In this quick video, I break down what most rabbis mean when they talk about timelines – and why anyone promising a shortcut might be a red flag. Real talk, no

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Can Politics Ruin Your Jewish Conversion?

November 4, 2024

Do your politics matter while converting to Judaism? No! (Yes, of course they do.) Should you be open about your politics while converting? Only you can answer that, but let’s give you some useful information to make that decision. Disclaimers! Lawyers love disclaimers, and I’m no exception. I’ve been a part of and visited more

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What Is a Chumrah and What Is Halacha

February 16, 2023

If you haven’t discovered it already, 2 Jews equals 3 opinions! And it is entirely possible for all of those opinions to be correct. How is that possible?? I’m Jewish, so I could give you 18 answers to that question. The best answer I can give you is that Judaism is not only NOT a

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Friendships When a Liberal Convert Goes Orthodox

January 9, 2019

I came across this question on social media again recently, and it has been a frequent concern over the years: “I converted in one Jewish movement and now want to convert orthodox. What will happen to my friendships and my relationship with my former rabbi(s)? Will they hate me? Am I betraying them?” First, I’ll

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The Rabbis Who Might Be Involved in Your Conversion

May 10, 2015

Rabbis, rabbis, rabbis, everywhere you look it feels like there’s another guy in a beard and a hat (well, maybe not in your community, but you get what I mean). Interacting with all of them and coordinating them doesn’t just feel like herding cats, it actually is harder than herding cats because cats have less

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The Growth of Dogs in the Jewish Community

April 11, 2012

I used to be known as “the girl with the 3-legged cat.” Now the poor mutilated cat has been upstaged by some dirty, poor-mannered dogs. Now, if a stranger knows anything about me, they know I have “two huge dogs.” And in New York City, of all places! If I’m at a Shabbos table, this

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Conversion Candidates: The Child Who Doesn’t Know How to Ask

April 9, 2012

At the seder, the discussion always surrounds the rasha, the wicked child. We rarely discuss the other three children, and usually then, only to compare and contrast with the rasha. This year, I put a name to a long-standing part of myself: the child who doesn’t know how to ask the question. You can never

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What Does a Beit Din Do Besides Conversions?

April 4, 2012

Most of you are familiar with one thing batei din do in the modern world: convert people. But what else do they do? You’d be surprised. A beit din can do most of the things a secular court can, in addition to presiding over pure halachic issues. What doesn’t a beit din do? Hear criminal

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