The (Usually) Unspoken Message Many Conversion Candidates Hear Too many of us — whether through words or tone, directly or disguised as “good advice” — are told that conversion candidates aren’t worth a rabbi’s time. That we’re a waste of it. That our questions are a nuisance. That we should somehow earn our place. And […]
Jewish Conversion Candidates (and All Seekers) Are Not a Burden Read Post »
Why would someone convert to Judaism twice? It’s a question I get a lot—and honestly, it’s a fair one. But it’s also very common. The first time I converted, I thought I had found my middle path. But deep down, I knew I wasn’t done. What followed was years of wrestling, recommitting, and rebuilding. My
7 Years, 3 Batei Din, 1 Jewish Soul Read Post »
Jewish Conversion Was Never Meant to Be a Solo Journey If you’re feeling overwhelmed, isolated, or unsure where you stand in the conversion process… I see you. You’ve been reading the books, whispering along with the blessings, watching YouTube videos at 2am—and still wondering: Am I doing this right? You’re not alone in that. In
Where to Find Real Support During Jewish Conversion Read Post »
Jewish conversion can feel like you’re scaling a mountain that no one else sees.You’re putting in the effort, doing the work, asking the questions—and still wondering if anyone notices. If anyone gets it. But you’re not as alone as you think. Today’s step is simple, but powerful:Name one supportive person you can lean on.A friend.
Who’s On Your Team During Jewish Conversion? Read Post »
If you’ve ever felt like converting to Judaism is less of a spiritual journey and more of a test of how much you’re willing to suffer… you’re not alone. In this video, I’m naming the thing we don’t talk about enough: endurance culture in Orthodox conversion is harming real people, and it’s not what Judaism
Hot Take: Why “Tough Love” in Conversion Spaces Isn’t Love at All Read Post »
“It’ll all be worth it.” If you’ve heard that phrase during your Jewish conversion journey—especially when you were struggling—you’re not alone. And you’re not overreacting if it didn’t sit right. There’s a name for that kind of response: spiritual bypassing. It’s when someone uses spiritual language to gloss over real pain, pressure you into feeling
Spiritual Bypassing During Jewish Conversion: What It Is and Why It Hurts Read Post »
Imposter syndrome during the Jewish conversion process isn’t just about doubting yourself – it’s about being in a system that constantly asks you to prove your sincerity, while rarely making the rules explicit. You’re expected to navigate unspoken expectations, and then penalized for getting them wrong. In this video, I unpack how imposter syndrome really
Imposter Syndrome in the Jewish Conversion Process: It’s Not Just in Your Head Read Post »
Imposter syndrome during the Jewish conversion process isn’t just about feeling insecure – it’s about living inside a system that constantly makes you prove yourself. You’re asked to show your sincerity, your growth, your commitment – while navigating a whole world of unspoken rules. And somehow, if you mess up? It’s on you. This video
You’re Not Broken: Imposter Syndrome and the Jewish Conversion Process Read Post »
Let’s be blunt – this shouldn’t have to be said, but here we are. If you’re in the middle of the Jewish conversion process and a rabbi asks you out (or does things that feel like dating)? That’s not okay. The power imbalance in conversion is real, and it matters. You deserve safety, clarity, and
When a Rabbi Crosses the Line: What’s Not Okay During Conversion Read Post »
“Sexual harassment and abuse can and do happen during the Jewish conversion process – and we need to talk about it.” That’s the heart of this video. It’s not just a one-off scandal or a bad-apple rabbi. It’s a systemic vulnerability created by intense power imbalances, isolation, and a gatekeeping structure where one person’s word
When Gatekeeping Becomes Dangerous: Sexual Harassment in the Jewish Conversion Process Read Post »