This wasn’t easy to make. I’ve been part of the Jewish community for years now, but there are some things I still carry quietly. One of them is how vulnerable conversion candidates can be – and how rarely we talk about it. Sexual harassment and abuse do happen during the Jewish conversion process. Sometimes it’s […]
Sexual Harassment in the Jewish Conversion Process: What You Need to Know Read Post »
If you’re just starting your journey, or feeling stuck in the middle of it, you’ve probably wondered: how long is this going to take? In this quick video, I break down what most rabbis mean when they talk about timelines – and why anyone promising a shortcut might be a red flag. Real talk, no
How Long Does It *Really* Take to Convert to Judaism? Read Post »
Can you daven in English? YES! In fact, sometimes maybe you should daven in English. Transcript available below. Transcript: Do you have to pray in Hebrew? No. You can pray in English or whatever language is most comfortable for you. You don’t have to be davening in Hebrew in order to be a real Jew
Can a Conversion Candidate Pray in English? Read Post »
Do your politics matter while converting to Judaism? No! (Yes, of course they do.) Should you be open about your politics while converting? Only you can answer that, but let’s give you some useful information to make that decision. Disclaimers! Lawyers love disclaimers, and I’m no exception. I’ve been a part of and visited more
Can Politics Ruin Your Jewish Conversion? Read Post »
I came across this question on social media again recently, and it has been a frequent concern over the years: “I converted in one Jewish movement and now want to convert orthodox. What will happen to my friendships and my relationship with my former rabbi(s)? Will they hate me? Am I betraying them?” First, I’ll
Friendships When a Liberal Convert Goes Orthodox Read Post »
Rabbis, rabbis, rabbis, everywhere you look it feels like there’s another guy in a beard and a hat (well, maybe not in your community, but you get what I mean). Interacting with all of them and coordinating them doesn’t just feel like herding cats, it actually is harder than herding cats because cats have less
The Rabbis Who Might Be Involved in Your Conversion Read Post »
Most of you are familiar with one thing batei din do in the modern world: convert people. But what else do they do? You’d be surprised. A beit din can do most of the things a secular court can, in addition to presiding over pure halachic issues. What doesn’t a beit din do? Hear criminal
What Does a Beit Din Do Besides Conversions? Read Post »
YES! But uh…it depends on who you ask. There is a halachic basis for the rabbis who declare you must eat meat on Shabbat. (Though even they will admit there was a great rabbi-whose name I forget-who was vegetarian every day but Shabbat.) I find most of these rabbis tend to be far to the
Can You Be an Orthodox Jew Who Happens to Be Vegetarian or Vegan? Read Post »
One of the biggest disagreements about conversion is kabbalot ol mitzvot, the acceptance of the yoke of the commandments. In case you don’t remember, yoke mean burden, not to be confused with a yolk. Fun fact: the “stock” from “being put in the stocks” is a human yoke. Criminals and slaves were put in stocks.
What If You Don’t Like One of the Mitzvot…Can You Still Convert Orthodox? Read Post »
You’re in the mikvah. You have your dips in the water and officially cross over into the obligation in mitzvot. What happens once you get dressed? First mitzvah/bracha. This should not happen in the mikvah because you shouldn’t say a bracha while nude. I think some people hear about the “here, have a candy!” bracha
Immediately After Conversion, What Needs to Be Done? Read Post »