You can love Judaism and hate converting. Conversion can be one of the most meaningful choices you’ll ever make…and still include parts you resent, grieve, or simply don’t enjoy. But converts are often expected to be endlessly joyful and grateful. If we admit that something is difficult, people may question our sincerity. Eventually, we start
The Feelings Jewish Converts Aren’t Supposed to Admit Read Post »
The third anniversary of October 7th may bring up complicated feelings, especially if you’re converting to Judaism or still finding your place after the mikvah. You may wonder whether this grief is yours to carry. You may worry that you aren’t feeling enough, or that feeling numb means you don’t care as deeply as you
What If You’re Not Grieving October 7th “Correctly”? Read Post »
The first time you go to synagogue, you might expect everyone to sit quietly and pay attention to the service. And then you get there and… everyone is talking. Someone’s whispering to their neighbor, someone else is catching up with an old friend, and meanwhile you’re afraid to cough because you have no idea what
Why Is Everyone Talking in Synagogue?! Read Post »
Jewish law is pretty clear that a person who converts to Judaism is Jewish. Full stop. The Torah also repeatedly commands us to love and protect converts. But Jewish law and the experience of actually being a convert in a Jewish community aren’t always exactly the same thing. Converts can find themselves in a strange
Are Converts Really Treated the Same as Born Jews? Read Post »
If you’re converting to Judaism, you’ve probably wondered: Once I convert, am I Jewish forever? Can a rabbi take away my conversion? It’s a question that comes up surprisingly often, and the answer is a little more nuanced than a simple yes or no. In this video, we’ll talk about what Jewish law says about
Can Your Jewish Conversion Be Taken Away? Read Post »
Can you convert to Judaism if you’re vegetarian or vegan? Mostly, yes. But there is one small corner of the Jewish world where you may be told that eating meat is expected, at least on Shabbat and holidays. Before you panic, let’s talk about where that idea comes from, how common it actually is, and
Do You Have to Eat Meat to Convert to Judaism? Read Post »
One of the most overwhelming parts of converting to Judaism is realizing there isn’t just one “Jewish conversion.” People quickly discover there are different movements, different expectations, different community cultures, and different long-term consequences attached to each path. So how do you decide between Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform conversion? In this video, we’re talking honestly
How to Choose Between an Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform Conversion Read Post »
If you’re in the middle of conversion, there’s a quiet pressure that creeps in. You start to believe that seriousness means intensity. That if you really care, you should be doing everything. Keeping every stringency. Learning nonstop. Saying yes to every opportunity. Becoming observant overnight. You want to be done already. You want to prove
The Fastest Way to Burn Out in Jewish Conversion Read Post »
If you’re converting or exploring Judaism, there are going to be words you hear that feel insider-y. Cultural. Maybe even funny. And when you’re new, it can be tempting to use those words about yourself – especially if you’re trying to signal humility or show that you “get it.” But some words carry history that
“Nobody Wants This” Normalized Something Dangerous Read Post »
Most Jewish converts don’t get “outed” by a rude question. They get outed by ordinary conversation. If you’ve ever found yourself frozen mid–small talk, suddenly aware that the next question will push you into sharing something private you didn’t plan to explain, you already know how this happens. Jewish geography – the well-meaning, mildly competitive
The Social Game Every Jewish Convert Eventually Loses Read Post »